How to Use Vibrators in Partner Sex

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Vibrators are amazing things. They can be plugged in, fired up with a battery or two, and even recharged for satiating use whenever you are alone or with a partner. Moreover a vibe is your one true friend who will always be ready when you need it. Unless of course if the battery hasn’t died from overuse during your last masturbathon or the charge hasn’t run out. Vibes come in different sizes, with a few variations in the shape department, for reasons that are not so unfathomable.

While many women use vibes to masturbate, the number dwindles when it comes to using it while you are with your partner. Most times, the vibe stays put in the bottom drawer of the nightstand when you are getting all hot and heavy with your partner. But ladies, it’s time to introduce your friend-in-need to your SO. And it’s time for some rock n roll between the three of you. If this isn’t an awesome threesome, we don’t know what else is! (Wink. Just kidding, we of course know what else can be a threesome, but more of that some other day!)

Break the ice and get all three of you going in bed. Here are a few sex positions you can include your vibrator in, even with your partner.

Tried and Tested Missionary

Though there are variations to the missionary, we’ll stick to the conventional one. This position demands a vibe that will pleasure both partners. Some vibrators are meant for couple use, like the WE-Vibe couple vibrators, which can easily be slipped in between the two of you. The dual motors will take care of both internal and external pleasure, and penetration is possible even with the vibe buzzing inside the woman.

Feisty Cowgirl

 The Cowgirl or the Woman on Top position calls for an external stimulator that will pleasure both partners. Take a bow, clitoral vibrators. These feisty little vibes come in small and large sizes, though the smaller ones are best used between two people. They are unobtrusive, come in the smallest of sizes – the lipstick and bullet variations – and most of them are whisper quiet. Your neighbor on the other side of the wall doesn’t need to know you are getting adventurous in bed.

Adventurous Doggy Style

 This one is one of the guys’ favorites, for they get the desired angle and can control the speed as well. This is less vanilla and more on the wild side. Also this position puts the man in a position of power where they can manoeuvre the action according to their liking. (Psst, the girls tell us they like it too!) Finger vibrators that can be attached to your pointers are the best bet for sex in this position. Your partner can concentrate on your clitoris or any other erogenous zone he feels like. Let your imagination run wild and explore the vibrator types in this position.

Vibrators they say can be a girl’s BFF. Don’t be afraid to explore with your partner and let your imagination guide you.

How to Choose a Vibrator That Will Rock Your World

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La Gioconda or Monalisa to the world, smiles down upon 6 million people every year, comfortably perched on the walls of the Louvre Museum in Paris. Her smile is mysterious to say the least and there have been many theories regarding the reason behind her smile. What could it be? Our guess is that she has something naughty to hide, and a woman of her stature could only smile so enigmatically even when she has a clandestine secret to keep. If it is not the lighting or the lack of her brows, our take on it is she had a session of self pleasuring with her favorite vibrator right before she modelled for Leonardo! Now, now before one gets indignant at the mere suggestion, it’s just an idea.

She probably knew which vibe to choose for her secret getaways, but do you? Or are you still trying to fight your way to the shore in the vast ocean of choices for the right vibrator? Vibrators are a source intense pleasure if you’re using the right one. If you’ve never chosen a sex toy for yourself, or are toying with the idea to move on to a better version of your secret best friend, worry not! Here are some tips on choosing the right kind of vibrator for beginners and pros alike. Consider the various factors that go into choosing a vibrator and here’s a lowdown on each of them.

Size

You don’t want a battery operated boyfriend that intimidates you from the word Go. Take your time in choosing the right one and consider which size you want. Some G spot vibes have a long wand and are curved to reach your most sensitive spots – but a beginner may not like the strong vibrations they produce. On the other hand, they are perfect for those who have already had their first vibe. Try choosing a bullet or an egg vibrator if this is your first time. They are small yet powerful and provide pleasurable sensations to your insides as well as the outer erogenous zones. It depends on how you use them. Go for a larger vibe only if you are completely sure of what you are buying.

VibratorsClitoral stimulation or G Spot?

Have you decided which part you want to stimulate the most? The majority of women cannot orgasm without clitoral stimulation and it is always better to choose your first vibrator that will stimulate your clitoris. It is the most sensitive little nubbin in your body, packed with more than 8,000 nerve endings and connected to more internally. It is the clitoris that needs some loving if you are looking for an earth shattering, ground rocking orgasm with your vibrator. Some vibes are made only for clitoral stimulation which some have dual functions. If you are still not ready to insert a foreign object into your vagina (although doing it may change the way you orgasm), then a clitoral stimulator is your best bet.

One of the best clitoral vibrators is the Hitachi Magic Wand.

Couples’ vibe or for solo use?

This is another factor that needs to be considered while choosing your first vibrator. If you and your partner are looking for some adventurous fun together, a couples’ vibrator is your best bet. Many sex toy brands including California Exotic Novelties, Jimmy Jane and We-Vibe have excellent products in the market and the options are endless. Some of these vibrators can be fitted between your body and your partner’s, and drive you both to the peaks of pleasure together.

Settings and Power (Also the quietness)

Some of these battery operated boyfriends have various settings with vibration, pulsation and escalation as the basis of the settings. Some come with various settings and the power of the vibrations varies too. If you are buying from a brick and mortar shop you can test the settings before you check. Hold the vibrator at the base of your neck or in the palm of your hand to check how it works. Most shops will have a tester. If you are buying online, customer reviews are your best bet. Read up on the type of vibrator you are contemplating buying, and make an informed choice before you invest in one.

The sound of the vibe is also a factor to consider. If you live with other people in the house, you don’t want them to hear your vibe go when you set it on. Some out there produce only a quiet hum that’s perfect for people who have others sleeping on the other side of their bedroom wall.

Anal Vibrators

These are the ones that make the anal players tick. Anal vibrators come in various sizes and shapes, but one thing common in all of them is that they have a wide flange at the base, or a retrieval cord, so you can pull it out comfortably. NEVER use a normal vibrator for anal stimulation because they lack the safety feature that is present in the anal toys.

Vibrators are made of body safe materials some of which are hard while some soft, almost skin like. Some have pliable bodies that move with you intensifying the pleasurable sensations within and without. Read reviews and look up various sites before you buy your very first vibrator!