How to Use Vibrators in Partner Sex

Rabbit Vibrator

Vibrators are amazing things. They can be plugged in, fired up with a battery or two, and even recharged for satiating use whenever you are alone or with a partner. Moreover a vibe is your one true friend who will always be ready when you need it. Unless of course if the battery hasn’t died from overuse during your last masturbathon or the charge hasn’t run out. Vibes come in different sizes, with a few variations in the shape department, for reasons that are not so unfathomable.

While many women use vibes to masturbate, the number dwindles when it comes to using it while you are with your partner. Most times, the vibe stays put in the bottom drawer of the nightstand when you are getting all hot and heavy with your partner. But ladies, it’s time to introduce your friend-in-need to your SO. And it’s time for some rock n roll between the three of you. If this isn’t an awesome threesome, we don’t know what else is! (Wink. Just kidding, we of course know what else can be a threesome, but more of that some other day!)

Break the ice and get all three of you going in bed. Here are a few sex positions you can include your vibrator in, even with your partner.

Tried and Tested Missionary

Though there are variations to the missionary, we’ll stick to the conventional one. This position demands a vibe that will pleasure both partners. Some vibrators are meant for couple use, like the WE-Vibe couple vibrators, which can easily be slipped in between the two of you. The dual motors will take care of both internal and external pleasure, and penetration is possible even with the vibe buzzing inside the woman.

Feisty Cowgirl

 The Cowgirl or the Woman on Top position calls for an external stimulator that will pleasure both partners. Take a bow, clitoral vibrators. These feisty little vibes come in small and large sizes, though the smaller ones are best used between two people. They are unobtrusive, come in the smallest of sizes – the lipstick and bullet variations – and most of them are whisper quiet. Your neighbor on the other side of the wall doesn’t need to know you are getting adventurous in bed.

Adventurous Doggy Style

 This one is one of the guys’ favorites, for they get the desired angle and can control the speed as well. This is less vanilla and more on the wild side. Also this position puts the man in a position of power where they can manoeuvre the action according to their liking. (Psst, the girls tell us they like it too!) Finger vibrators that can be attached to your pointers are the best bet for sex in this position. Your partner can concentrate on your clitoris or any other erogenous zone he feels like. Let your imagination run wild and explore the vibrator types in this position.

Vibrators they say can be a girl’s BFF. Don’t be afraid to explore with your partner and let your imagination guide you.

5 Reasons Why Lube Makes Sex Better

Wet Warming Gel LubricantSome women experience vaginal dryness for various reasons due to which sex turns painful. It could be age, or menopause, even certain illness or surgery that could rob you of your natural lubrication. But that’s no reason to stop having sex. Using a few drops of lube can create wonders for your sesh in bed – whether alone or with a partner. Lube makes you wetter and the sex so much better. There are various types of lubes that are available in the market for you to choose from and investing in one can do wonders for your sex life.

When it comes to sex, wetter is always better. It helps you to try out a new activity, pushes your horizons and also makes sex last longer. If you are still not convinced, here are a few more reasons why a bottle of lube should find a permanent place on your nightstand.

Smoother Navigation

Even if you do not have an issue with natural lubrication, a few drops of lube can make the entire session much more smooth and easy. Whether you’re masturbating or are with a partner, using a good water based lube makes penetration easier.

Better Orgasms

Researches on how many women orgasm during sex threw up some pretty gloomy data. There are about 38% women who have never had an orgasm. While orgasm depends on how much you are turned on and the amount of foreplay, it also depends on whether you have received enough stimulation from penetration. Lube can smoothen things up and make orgasms feel better.

Couple having sexMore Satisfaction

Women who use lube experience higher levels of satisfaction than women who have never used lube. Using lube allows him to thrust more and at varying speeds, which brings more satisfaction. It also helps with that extra layer of stimulation, making sex much more enjoyable.

 Variation in Sex

Lube helps you expand the horizons of your sexual encounters with your partner, and lets you explore more. Whether you are trying out a new position, a recently acquired sex toy, or are toying with the idea of anal sex, lube will make things easier for you.

Better Oral Sex

There are various kinds of flavored lubes available at stores – both online and brick and mortar ones. Pick a flavor that you like and get on with that blow job thing you promised your man. Flavored lubes reduce friction and make oral jobs more enjoyable for both the giver and the receiver.

P.S. Lube makes your sessions last LONGER!

How to Choose a Vibrator That Will Rock Your World

couple on bed

La Gioconda or Monalisa to the world, smiles down upon 6 million people every year, comfortably perched on the walls of the Louvre Museum in Paris. Her smile is mysterious to say the least and there have been many theories regarding the reason behind her smile. What could it be? Our guess is that she has something naughty to hide, and a woman of her stature could only smile so enigmatically even when she has a clandestine secret to keep. If it is not the lighting or the lack of her brows, our take on it is she had a session of self pleasuring with her favorite vibrator right before she modelled for Leonardo! Now, now before one gets indignant at the mere suggestion, it’s just an idea.

She probably knew which vibe to choose for her secret getaways, but do you? Or are you still trying to fight your way to the shore in the vast ocean of choices for the right vibrator? Vibrators are a source intense pleasure if you’re using the right one. If you’ve never chosen a sex toy for yourself, or are toying with the idea to move on to a better version of your secret best friend, worry not! Here are some tips on choosing the right kind of vibrator for beginners and pros alike. Consider the various factors that go into choosing a vibrator and here’s a lowdown on each of them.


You don’t want a battery operated boyfriend that intimidates you from the word Go. Take your time in choosing the right one and consider which size you want. Some G spot vibes have a long wand and are curved to reach your most sensitive spots – but a beginner may not like the strong vibrations they produce. On the other hand, they are perfect for those who have already had their first vibe. Try choosing a bullet or an egg vibrator if this is your first time. They are small yet powerful and provide pleasurable sensations to your insides as well as the outer erogenous zones. It depends on how you use them. Go for a larger vibe only if you are completely sure of what you are buying.

VibratorsClitoral stimulation or G Spot?

Have you decided which part you want to stimulate the most? The majority of women cannot orgasm without clitoral stimulation and it is always better to choose your first vibrator that will stimulate your clitoris. It is the most sensitive little nubbin in your body, packed with more than 8,000 nerve endings and connected to more internally. It is the clitoris that needs some loving if you are looking for an earth shattering, ground rocking orgasm with your vibrator. Some vibes are made only for clitoral stimulation which some have dual functions. If you are still not ready to insert a foreign object into your vagina (although doing it may change the way you orgasm), then a clitoral stimulator is your best bet.

One of the best clitoral vibrators is the Hitachi Magic Wand.

Couples’ vibe or for solo use?

This is another factor that needs to be considered while choosing your first vibrator. If you and your partner are looking for some adventurous fun together, a couples’ vibrator is your best bet. Many sex toy brands including California Exotic Novelties, Jimmy Jane and We-Vibe have excellent products in the market and the options are endless. Some of these vibrators can be fitted between your body and your partner’s, and drive you both to the peaks of pleasure together.

Settings and Power (Also the quietness)

Some of these battery operated boyfriends have various settings with vibration, pulsation and escalation as the basis of the settings. Some come with various settings and the power of the vibrations varies too. If you are buying from a brick and mortar shop you can test the settings before you check. Hold the vibrator at the base of your neck or in the palm of your hand to check how it works. Most shops will have a tester. If you are buying online, customer reviews are your best bet. Read up on the type of vibrator you are contemplating buying, and make an informed choice before you invest in one.

The sound of the vibe is also a factor to consider. If you live with other people in the house, you don’t want them to hear your vibe go when you set it on. Some out there produce only a quiet hum that’s perfect for people who have others sleeping on the other side of their bedroom wall.

Anal Vibrators

These are the ones that make the anal players tick. Anal vibrators come in various sizes and shapes, but one thing common in all of them is that they have a wide flange at the base, or a retrieval cord, so you can pull it out comfortably. NEVER use a normal vibrator for anal stimulation because they lack the safety feature that is present in the anal toys.

Vibrators are made of body safe materials some of which are hard while some soft, almost skin like. Some have pliable bodies that move with you intensifying the pleasurable sensations within and without. Read reviews and look up various sites before you buy your very first vibrator!

5 Handy Tips for Women on How to Masturbate and Orgasm

Masturbation Masturbation is a wonderful way to explore your body and finding out what makes you tick. Since there is no other person involved you don’t have to do something you are not too keen on to please your partner and the best part is that there is only one person to please – YOU! The best of your orgasms will probably come from romancing yourself, so get going! It still is taboo in most societies to talk about female masturbation but that’s probably just the jealous men folk talking. So get set and go!

How to masturbate

Most women report orgasms through clitoral stimulation, though vaginal and nipple orgasms exist too. But more on that later. Let’s get down to the basics, shall we ladies? Your clitoris is the small nubbin at the intersection of the labia just above the opening of the vagina. This is the spot that has 8,000 nerve endings which connect to 15,000 more nerve endings internally and together these nerve endings are responsible for your earth shattering orgasms.

Location is important

So where do you start? Begin by finding yourself a comfortable place. It could be your bed, or your couch in front of the TV, or the floor where you can spread out comfortably, lie down or sit up as and when you need. Keeping a few pillows handy may help too.


Like in sex, foreplay is important in masturbation too. Explore your body, touch yourself and see which spots are more sensitive than the others, play with your nipples, and relax. Running your fingertips on areas like your stomach and the vulva also helps to relax, and begin the build up of pleasure within you. The area between the stomach and the beginning of the pelvic region is also a sensitive spot and some women feel frissons of pleasure when this area is stimulated.

Stimulation of the clitoris

Since a majority of women report having an orgasm by clitoral stimulation, knowing how to flick your bean is important. You could go with any motion – circular, up and down, the pendulum motion or even the diagonal motion. Every woman is different, and everyone has her own trigger point. Keep exploring till you find your own pleasure point and your favorite rhythm. When you find it keep doing in, varying the pressure and speed at intervals. The pointer and the middle finger work the best. Rub the insides of your labia for variation and added stimulation.

Use a vibrator

Some women love using the rabbit vibrator or clitoral stimulators that provide a steady rhythm to take you over the edge of pleasure. You could also use a combination of egg vibrators and a G Spot vibe for an explosive orgasm.

Lube up

If you are not lubricating naturally at first, then try a mild water based lubricant to smoothen things up. You could of course use your natural juices to moisten your labia and use the lubrication for heightened pleasures.
Remember it is not a test, and not cumming the first few times is perfectly ok. Your goal should be relaxation and exploration of your own erogenous zones, and it is ok not to experience orgasm. Once you are comfortable with your body receiving pleasure, the muscles will learn to clench and relax on their own, giving you deliciously pleasurable orgasms.

The key is to practice. The more you practice, the more you will get comfortable with yourself. Your orgasms will get better with practice.